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What Matters Most

What matters most for any one of us could vary, just like our preference in music or foods or almost anything. But something that the majority of us believe matters most is the people we love or care about. Those close to us, not necessarily our virtual friends, but in this modern world even some of the virtual people matter a great deal!

Prioritizing people over things

The superficial really doesn’t matter very much when we are dealing with a chronic disease like hep C. The clothes we wear, the place we live, the car we drive — all of these become far less important when facing chronic disease or tragic events. We all need food and shelter, safety, and the fundamentals to be at our best possible health, both physical and emotional. And these are important make no mistake, but people should be tops on the list, in my view!

This is not an endorsement for letting go of personal joys or activities, or any of the things that give us joy. It is not ‘one or the other’. A haircut or a new pair of your favorite shoes may lift you up (if that is what you do) and I am not saying you should throw aside those things as entirely meaningless. But the real stuff I think we all believe matters most is the people in our lives.

Taken for granted

This has been brought home to me again more recently, as it can for us all at times. Not that we necessarily forget, but we may take it for granted sometimes.

No matter how independent we see ourselves, there are people in our lives who depend on us in some way, just as we depend on them. This does not have to be measured in the usual ways. Being dependent is not such a terrible thing when we need it, is it? We depend on people and that’s a natural, thing unless it becomes bad. And it doesn’t need to become that way with some reciprocal effort. It is worth the effort most of the time, isn’t it?

Who do you depend on?

You may be a self-described loner, even you have people in your life, however much time you spend in day–to-day interaction. I am reminded of the “getting back to nature” craze of my youth. I tried it myself for a year. It was believed that if we got closer to nature we would create a kind of special state of mind or perspective. To be honest, it was a failure for me. I enjoyed the part of building my cabin in the forest but the long days of solitude became tedious in a few short months, and subsequently, I spent more time back in so-called civil society. It wasn’t that I missed television or all of the other mod cons, and there was no constant need to be entertained, it was simply having the company of others. It is clear that a number of others very much enjoyed and still do like or prefer isolation or little human contact. I am not saying you shouldn’t, if that is your thing.

Finding our balance

It is like everything else, we are not all the same. A balance is desirable for most people, which is diverse as we all are.

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