Spring Cleaning with Hepatitis C
Motivating your family to help with household cleaning can be challenging. For people living with hepatitis C, it can be difficult to ask for more help, or even tempting to forgo rest and say, “I’ll just to do it myself”. However, when managing symptoms or treatment side effects, going to medical appointments, and practicing self-care, keeping your house clean may require the whole household to pitch in. As we escape Winter and move into the time of Spring Cleaning, follow these tips and tricks for getting your family to help with household cleaning.
Talk About It
Even if your illness allows you to do some of the housework, set expectations for your entire household to be involved. Start by talking about your concerns, explaining how your hep C can cause fatigue and other symptoms that can impact your ability to do certain things, and asking them to commit to doing their part to keep the house clean. By setting early expectations of all family members, you can avoid a cleaning disaster when your symptoms or side effects suddenly prevent you from completing the routine chores. For those of you who are no longer able to participate in household cleaning, these same conversations will allow your family members to step in, helping you to improve the family’s household habits.
But how can they help?
When talking to other adults in the house, make clear requests. “Can you help me tidy up today?” may seem clear to you, but is probably too vague for someone who is not used to cleaning up. Instead, provide family members with clear questions, such as “Could you do a load of dark laundry today, please?” or “Would you mind unloading the dishwasher tonight?”. By making clear, manageable requests, and asking at the right moment, you can show your family what cleaning tasks are most helpful to you when managing your illness.
Okay, but what about my kids?
Even young kids can pick up their stuff! With hep C, you may not have the energy to constantly ask your kids to pick up after themselves, much less do it yourself. However, try to give your kids clear directions on what needs to be done, as well as clear consequences and rewards for the task. Establish firm expectations for your kids, and praise them for helping out (even if they don’t make the bed as well as you do). Overtime, your kids will become better at tidying up after themselves, meaning you won’t always have to ask them. Just like you shouldn’t jump in and load the dishwasher for your spouse, you also shouldn’t continue to do things for your kids that you’ve repeatedly asked them to do. If you slowly limit how much you clean up after your family, eventually, your family members will step up!
Make It Happen…. Slowly
Routines don’t happen overnight, and that’s okay! Help your family to set up a new cleaning routine, and try to be patient as the new schedule becomes familiar. Changing your family’s cleaning habits will take time, and household cleaning cannot take the place of managing symptoms, sticking to treatment schedules, and practicing self-care. When you feel up to it, start by making a check-list of the things that need to happen every day, every week, and every month. Indicate essential and nonessential tasks, and post the list in a common area. If you are the only one who knows all of the cleaning steps, your family won’t be able to help. Instead, show your family exactly what needs to be done each week or month, and determine who will accomplish each task.
Set aside a day (or morning) for family cleaning! Only take on the tasks that you can handle with your illness, and if you need to sit-out, rely on your family to support you. Establishing a designated time for cleaning will help the family to become more aware of their messy habits, as well as make house cleaning feel more routine. If possible, offer a reward for the group’s hard-work, such as a movie after an hour of cleaning up the kitchen. Even if the whole family takes just fifteen minutes between dinner and dessert to clean up one room, you can accomplish a lot by the end of the week!
Every Day, Throw Something Away
When balancing hepatitis C with the needs of your family, small steps are key. On particularly bad days, cleaning the whole house is overwhelming. Instead, wait until you feel able, and then take small steps to clean your home, focusing on one room or area at a time. Slowly declutter your house: every day, throw something away. If you only have the energy to organize one cabinet today, that’s still progress! Small steps can lead to major cleaning victories. At first, your family members may also be more willing to do quick, easy cleaning tasks, like wiping down the counters, rather than spending an hour vacuuming the whole hours. Over time, your family will build better cleaning habits, allowing you to take more time to practice self-care.
Be Appreciative, But Maintain Expectations
Lastly, say “thank you”. Praising your family members for helping out around the house can go a long way in maintaining good cleaning habits; thank them for their hard work, and show them how much you appreciate what they do. However, when you give praise, also maintain your expectations for everyone to help out!