Family Issues with Hepatitis C
Of all of the problems that go along with the Hepatitis C Virus, family issues can be the most painful. We have grand ideas of how we want life to be when we are young. We may hope that we will have a family that will be better than the one we grew up with. We vow to marry someone who will be loyal. We smugly think that we will never treat our kids such and such a way. We all make adjustments along the way and try our best to keep those promises we made to ourselves. Sometimes we end up walking in deep doo-doo. Life did not come with a handbook and we quickly find out that the little decisions we make on a day to day basis can quickly add up to disasters.
A series of unfortunate events leads to a lack of forgiveness and feelings of rejection or even abandonment. Little squabbles end up in bitter feuds - and I’m talking about family life for everyone. If you add disease, like liver disease from Hep C, it magnifies family problems to a whole new level.
I hear from a lot of readers who are so hurt by family problems that they are not taking good care of themselves. They feel lonely, isolated, and misunderstood. Many feel that they have let someone down by getting sick. They feel like they are a burden. I know how that feels. We hate to ask others for help because we do not want to damage our relationships.
We can get past those problems and take care of ourselves so that our body can heal. See, taking care of yourself has got to be your first priority. In an airplane, we are reminded to put the oxygen mask on ourselves first even when traveling with a small child. That is because if you try and put the mask on someone else first, you will pass out before you finish. Then you are no good to anyone.
Look at your situation as realistically as possible. You have a virus. You may have liver damage from it. You need medical care and good food in order to survive. Let your loved ones know that you are going to be pro-active in taking care of your health needs. Tell them you are making a plan with your health care provider. Ask them if they are willing to help you in the journey.
This may be a good time to ask for forgiveness for any past hurts. Forgive them if there have been cross words or distance between you. Some of them will have open hearts and open arms. Others may not care to restore the relationship. Whether you are able to resolve family issues or you end up cutting ties, you can move on in your goals to get rid of the virus. Later, when you are feeling healthier, it will be much easier to work on family issues.
Has hep C had an impact on your relationships?